- Be Mindful. Are you feeling pressured to do something? Notice that. Pressure to hang out with this particular person? Notice that too. Why you are feeling that way? Take inventory. Get curious without judgement. Eventually, you will become more and more familiar with your core values and beliefs.
- You should be the center of your life. Figure out how you want to spend your time and do it. Decide who you can be your most authentic and honest self with and hang out with them. Period.
- Be your own best friend. Sounds simple, and in a lot of ways, it is. Be nice to yourself — if you want to do something, honor that. If you don’t want to do something — honor that too. Feeling sad? Acknowledge it. Speak to yourself as you would a friend. Comfort yourself in times of need. Have fun alone — enjoy your company. You have a built in, lifelong friendship between you and you so make it a damn good one.
- Be whoever the fuck you want to be. It’s a damn shame to “fit in” when you could just be yourself instead.
- Get intimate. Intimacy = being vulnerable = letting people in. Share your opinions, thoughts, confusions, hesitations — all of it. This is how you create actual connections, whether romantic or platonic.
