Identities are not helpful. They don’t serve us.
Yes, we need them in order to communicate. Of course. To move about this society in a way that’s appropriate, it’s necessary. Yes.
But nothing about them actually helps us, besides for that aspect of them.
So, why then, do we place such heavy value on them?
Why do we look at them as absolute truths, instead of names in a game?
When I remove the context from which I know someone — “a mutual friend”, “the olympic athlete”, “the video game loving couch potato”, I let go of the expectation for that person to be someone or something, or to fulfill a role in some way.
I remove the expectation I have of them, and suddenly, they don’t have to be anyone different than exactly who they are.
Nothing needs to change.
The relationship, then, is no longer ego driven, or manipulative in some way, it just is.
Here and now.
By shattering the “truths” of who we are, and the identities we hold so closely, we start to shift our awareness from a more narrow, close minded model, to a more expansive one.
It is an act of rebellion in a society so focused identity.
It is a break in the consciousness of our humanity.
A pause in our world of mindless chatter.
Identities serve a purpose. They are not truths.
How seriously we take them, is up to us.