No one is queer, no one is diverse. Just BE with people as they are and don’t assume anything, and eventually, those statements I just wrote will be true for you. If you do, it’s your problem. Not anyone else’s. When you are present, you don’t need to “figure someone out”, “understand their background”. You don’t even need to understand your own biases. If you are present, it won’t matter.
Presence allows you the freedom from judgement. Of thinking, “this way is right, and this way is wrong.”