Should’s are tricky. They always seem to trick us into believing that they are the right thing to do.
I should go grocery shopping. I should go to my friend’s birthday party. I should tell him how I feel. I should volunteer more. I should eat a salad. I should wash the dishes. I should start traveling. I should read a book. I should go for a run. I should reach out to that couple I haven’t seen in a while. I should I should I should.
Should’s destroy us. Not only do they bring us into a hole of self pity, they also are inauthentic. If we do the should, whatever we’re doing is not coming from a place of desire and therefore, it is fake because we are acting. If we don’t do the should, we are just the worst — hole of self pity.
These should’s make us believe that they are more righteous than our wants and we can’t fall for it. Time is precious, and no one has time for should’s.
Our wants on the other hand — our wants are the key to our happiness.
And no, I’m not talking about that extra scoop of ice cream, or the booze, or the social media, I’m talking about the want.
What do I want to be doing right now? Who do I want to be doing it with? What do I want to say right now? Where do I want to go next? Where do I want to spend my time?
This is a huge shift, one that goes from the place of the mind to a place of the soul. The mind is full of should’s. The heart full of wants.
Our only job — to notice the should’s and to cultivate the wants.